Wednesday Morning, November 28, 2007

Today is a big news day. The oncologist just met with Dave and some family members and explained the results of the latest tests. I am not medical expert so my translation may be a bit off (or inadvertently way off) so please be tolerant.

There is significant cancer in Dave’s body, it has spread beyond its point of origin to the lungs and brain but the point of origin is important because that will provide guidance on what course of treatment is most appropriate.

Most information points to the colon as the source of cancer but a colonoscopy is required to verify that. They will be trying to schedule that for tomorrow.

If colon cancer is found, there are different treatments available including chemotherapy. They will probably be starting radiation therapy to treat the cancer that has invaded the brain as well.

The obvious question is “what is the bottom line of all this in terms of Dave’s future?” . It is still unclear and dependant upon the extent of the cancer and his response to treatment. My experience has shown that Dave tends to ignore any prediction on his longevity, and makes the decision himself. It appears he hasn’t changed.

After the oncologist left, I read to Dave the comments that many have posted on the website. I first told him who wrote the comment and the actual thoughts themselves. His faced beamed when he heard of all the people who were keeping him in their thoughts and prayers.

He, of course, explained to me who everyone was, how he knew them, and what nice people they were. He then had the brilliant idea to respond to each one. Through me! Well, that wasn’t going anywhere. I’ve helped write letters with him before and I may be a very loving brother but…

When I explained to him the facts of life with a few sarcastic comments, (me, sarcastic – never!) he wanted me to let everyone know that when he is able to type, that HE will respond. But in the meantime, he wanted everyone to know that he will walk out of the hospital soon, and he will do whatever it takes to beat this.

There have been some inquiries regarding sending Dave flowers, gifts, etc. It goes without saying that nothing is required or expected, but Dave’s physical and medical needs are well in hand. What means more than anything, and is truly a gift of inestimable value, is your prayers and thoughts. His spirits jumped when we read him the comments from this blog and the cards that were sent to him.

The doctors have emphasized that right now rest is his best therapy so visitors are still being restricted. This isn’t easy for Dave as many of you know – the more people around, the happier he is. When these restrictions are removed, we will let you know.

And Marla and the family are all doing fine. This is a difficult time but thankfully, God never gives us crosses to heavy for us to carry.

A side note (Geez, am I gonna add these every day?)
When I arrived this morning, Steven was there but Dave was just being served breakfast. He wasn’t really happy with the hospital fare and we asked him what he wanted. “I’m in the mood for Honey Bunches of Oats” “There’s some at my house, with my black bowl and a touch of sugar.”

In the mood? In the mood? This is going to be a long, long, long recovery on me, I thought. So I quickly called his house and asked if they could bring a box of Honey Bunches of Oats. And his bowl. And a spoon. And some sugar.

Well they did, and his precious sister Judy was preparing it and then he asked about a banana. Sliced. Judy noticed an extra pillow I was eying to see if it would fit over his mouth and nose. She grabbed it before I could, and sent me to the cafeteria to get a banana. And a knife.

I guess it’s good I’m such a loving brother.